Inappropriate, scrutiny, or sheer numbers
I hear things on the news about inappropriate relationships between high school students and teachers. Should I personally have that as a memory of high school? Do I remember it so many years later because it did make me uncomfortable, when I have forgotten so many other things? Why does my brain allow space for that memory?
When I was 15 and a sophomore in high school, I was taking a biology class. Our teacher was a beautiful, young married woman. She and her husband lived near our neighborhood, easily accessible to us. She was personable and told us things about her husband on several occasions. She was also a good teacher.
A year older than I, was an extremely good-looking football player. He had a beautiful girlfriend that he had “gone with” off and on since 8th grade. Of course with that description, you can surmise that they were one of “the couples.”
My perspective: One afternoon, the FB player came to HER classroom. I was in there. He opened the door, and when she saw him she quickly went to the hall. We could hear the talking, but not what was said. It was pretty obvious that FB player was drunk. Unfortunately for those two, the class was directly across from the office.
Next day the the teacher was gone, the Princiipal was teaching the classroom, and the FB player and his girl were broken up. No newspaper reports, no TV reports, just a little gossip
Within a year the FB player and the teacher were married (his mother had to sign for him as he was underage), raised three kids, and she went on to be an administrator in an acclaimed school district. He became a preacher.
Would that happen today? Should it have happened then? Is there just more media to scrutinize schools? Are there just so many students and teachers than in the past that there is more to hear about? I should just let it go, but it is like an accident scene – you just can’t help but look.
I didn’t get a very good education in biology that year.